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ZERO TOLERANCE TO NEGATIVE THINKING

ESCAPING FROM PERFECTION

Excellence is a road that takes you to your dreams unless you stop at a roadblock called perfection.  You must embrace excellence and flee perfection.  Excellence pays rich dividends and is always within your grasp.  Perfection is an unreasonable master who is never satisfied.  The wages of perfection are eternal frustration; no matter what you do or how hard you work, it’s never good enough.

PERFECTION PRETENDS TO BE YOUR FRIEND

Perfection is a master of disguises and infiltrates every area of your life.  It’s a silver-tongued adversary that pretends to be your friend while it fills your life with impossible dreams.  If you buy what perfection is selling, you will miss out on the good things of life.  Life can be excellent, but perfection is impossible.  The formula for a miserable life is to expect perfection in yourself, your friends, your parents, your children, your spouse, your business associates, your house, your car, your boat, and your job.  Perfection doesn’t exist in any of these areas.

If you are hooked on perfection, you need to have a talk with God.  In all recorded history, the only perfection I know about is God.  Hopefully, after your chat with the Creator of the universe, you will give up your need for perfection and switch your focus to excellence and love.

Perfection isn’t necessary; it’s a luxury you can’t afford.  You don’t have to be perfect and live without making a mistake for three days in a row to be worthy of God’s love.  You can be poor as a church mouse and walk around in rags, and God will love you just the same.  God loves and accepts everyone the way they are.  No exceptions.  If it’s good enough for God, it should be good enough for you.

BUILD YOUR LIFE ON A FOUNDATION OF ACCEPTANCE AND LOVE

You must build your life on a foundation of acceptance and love rather than on perfection.  God loves and accepts you the way that you are, but He loves you too much to let you stay that way.  The same is true in your human relationships.  You must love and accept people the way  they are, and do whatever you can to help them walk the path of excellence.

Expecting perfection in yourself and others is a dead end street.  The house at the end of the street is called frustration, and if you move in, you will be miserable for the rest of your life.

PERFECTION SELLS A PERFECT LIFE AND DELIVERS A  MISERABLE ONE

Perfection is a clever salesman that tries to sell you a perfect life rather than an excellent one.  The sales talk sounds compelling, and you soon buy in to what perfection is selling.  Why settle for good when you can go for the best?  Why not go all the way and go for perfection?

Young people search for the perfect mate.  Perfection gives them a long shopping list of all the qualities that must be present.  Perfection never bothers to mention the fact the perfect spouse doesn’t exist.  Perfection tells you to just keep looking.  He or she is out there somewhere.  Some people never get married because they won’t make a commitment until they find the perfect mate.

After you get married, perfection rears its ugly head and starts telling you all of the things wrong with your spouse.  The list of shortcomings is small at first, but it gets longer each day.  Perfection never tires in its relentless effort to destroy your happiness.  If you listen to the negative litany, it’s only a matter of time before perfection completes its dastardly plan and ruins your marriage. 

Perfection sells a perfect life and delivers a miserable one.  When perfection comes in the front door, the good things of life head for the emergency exit.

PERFECTION STEALS DREAMS

Perfection destroys many excellent dreams.  When I first started reading about sailing, I encountered articles that discussed the characteristics of the perfect yacht.  These articles were written as if the perfect yacht really did exist.  Maybe they were written by someone living in a parallel universe, different from our own, in which perfection was possible.  In all of the years I have been sailing, I never saw the perfect yacht.  None of them even came close.  All of them were compromises.  Here on planet earth where I live, there are no perfect yachts.  Maybe the authors were writing about perfect yachts in the Big Yacht Club in the Sky.

I have met many people who wanted to cruise around the world or the Caribbean on a perfect yacht.  After years of searching, these sailors finally realize the perfect yacht doesn’t exist, and so they make a compromise.  They buy an excellent one or maybe just a good one.  Then perfection pays a visit and tells them they can convert their excellent yacht into a perfect one.  It will only take a few years and a few thousand dollars to make it happen.  So, go ahead.  Do it.  It will be worth the effort, and you will be glad you did.

They spend years trying to convert their good yacht into a perfect one.  The years thunder by and they grow old, entangled in perfection’s web.  When they finally realize perfection is impossible, they are too old and poor to sail on the ocean of their dreams.

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